Welcoming Jesus Into the Wound: The Path to Real Healing

There’s something sacred about pain—something holy in the space where the heart breaks. It’s not comfortable, but it is a place of invitation.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of pain, shame, abandonment, fear, or rejection, you’re not alone. These aren’t just “bad habits” or “mindsets gone wrong”—they are often the echoes of unhealed trauma.

And trauma isn’t always the catastrophic moment. Sometimes, it’s the absence of what you needed. Sometimes, it’s the wound left behind when someone didn’t show up, didn’t protect, didn’t love.

John Eldredge, in his book "Experiencing Jesus," beautifully captures the invitation Jesus gives us: not to bypass our pain or perform our way through it, but to let Him into it.

The Wound We Carry

We all carry wounds. And let me say this—trauma isn’t weakness. It's what happens when something overwhelms our capacity to cope, and we didn't have what we needed to process it.

The wound might have been:

* A father who was absent or angry.

* A mother who was emotionally unavailable.

* A teacher who shamed instead of shaped.

* A church that used fear instead of love.

* A betrayal that rewired your nervous system.

And here’s what we tend to do: bury it, numb it, intellectualize it—or try to fix it all ourselves.

But no amount of positive thinking or self-help hustle can heal a wound we won’t let Jesus touch.

The Invitation of Jesus

Eldredge reminds us that Jesus longs to meet us in the places we’ve been trying to hide. He doesn't show up with a clipboard and a performance report. He comes with a gentle whisper:

Show Me where it hurts.

This is where the shift happens—not in striving, but in surrender.

Healing doesn’t begin when we figure it out. Healing begins when we invite Jesus into the wound.

When we say:

> “Jesus, I give You access. Come into this memory, this moment, this ache. Sit with me here. Show me what You see.”

He doesn’t shame. He doesn’t rush. He doesn’t fix and flee.

He *dwells*.

He heals from within. Layer by layer. Truth by truth. Until the wound becomes a well—of compassion, of strength, of presence.

Why Trauma Needs Jesus

Trauma disconnects. It disconnects us from ourselves, from others, and yes, often from God. It lies to us about who we are and what we deserve.

But Jesus brings truth. Not just abstract theology—but presence. That’s what changes everything.

His presence regulates what’s dysregulated.

His truth reclaims what shame tried to rename.

His love rewires the brain. (Yes—literally. Neuroplasticity confirms what faith has always known: you are not stuck.\*)

And this isn’t passive healing. This is partnership. You bring the wound. He brings the restoration.

A Prayer to Begin

If this speaks to you, here’s a simple, sacred way to start:

“Jesus, I invite You into the place I’ve tried to avoid.

I don’t even know how to describe it sometimes, but You know.

You see it. You were there.

I give You permission to walk with me through this.

Show me what I’ve been believing that isn’t true.

Show me where You are in this memory.

Replace the lies with Your truth.

I welcome You into my pain, not to remove it—but to redeem it.”

You weren’t made to carry this alone.

And you don’t have to.

He’s already on the path with you. The wounded part of you is not too broken or too far gone. It’s not disqualified. It’s not shameful.

It’s where the real healing begins.

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