Becoming a Really Good Listener of Your Own Story

How to Tune In, Heal, and Rewrite the Narrative You’re Living

Have you ever stopped to really listen to the story you’re telling yourself?

Not just the words you say out loud… but the silent script playing in the background of your mind? The one that tells you who you are, what you're capable of, and how the world works?

Most of us have been listening to this story on autopilot.

We inherited it from our family, our past experiences, our culture—and we assumed it was truth.

But here's the hard truth:

If you're not intentionally listening to your story, you're unconsciously living by it.

The Brain Believes What It Repeats

Neuroscience shows us that the brain is a prediction machine. It filters and interprets the world through the stories we’ve told it over and over again.

If your story is:

• “I always mess things up.”

• “I’m not as strong as other women.”

• “My needs are too much.”

Then your brain will start searching for evidence to support it—and your nervous system will react accordingly, keeping you stuck in a loop of anxiety, shame, or fear.

But here’s the good news:

You can become the kind of woman who listens on purpose—and rewrites the narrative.

3 Steps to Becoming a Better Listener of Your Own Story

1. Get quiet enough to hear it.

We live loud. Distracted. Pulled in a dozen directions at once.

But to hear the story, we have to slow down. Pause.

When you feel an emotional reaction—irritation, anxiety, shame—ask:

“What’s the story I’m telling myself right now?”

Sometimes it’s just under the surface:

• “They’re mad at me.”

• “I failed again.”

• “I’m not enough.”

That story matters. Don’t dismiss it. Don’t shove it down. Listen. This is your work.

2. Get curious, not critical.

We are quick to judge our inner voice.

But what if, instead of attacking the story, you got curious about it?

• “Where did I first learn this?”

• “Whose voice does this sound like?”

• “What pain is driving this?”

Your brain is trying to protect you—but it doesn’t always get it right.

Compassionate curiosity can help you rewrite the lines, instead of just reciting them.

3. Ask God to reveal the true story.

As a woman of faith, I know this:

The stories we pick up from our past often conflict with the truth God speaks over us.

The world may have told you you're too much—or not enough.

But God says:

• You are chosen. (John 15:16)

• You are His workmanship. (Ephesians 2:10)

• You are being renewed day by day. (2 Corinthians 4:16)

When we partner with God to rewrite the story, we step into healing.

We begin living from truth, not trauma.

From identity, not insecurity.

From grace, not guilt.